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2015/01/30 by Jac Rongen

Free learning

The best thing you can do at school as a parent?
Be a reading dad!

When I enter the classroom, a couple of kids are waiting with big bright eyes: who can join me today?
For I will throw a little party.
A reading party.

The first kid that the teacher chooses, rummages through shelves of instructional material, reading booklets, and remedial teaching stuff.
From the body language it is clear. This is a kid with a mission.

I let this process run free. For when the kid choses too simple an instruction set, he bores himself to death.
Sometimes the same kid then later overestimates himself. And gets totally frustrated trying to read a booklet way over his head.
These things happen once, and then the child knows exactly what is needed to get ahead.

At some rare ocasions I get a request from the teacher when the kid needs to focus on something. Diphtongs, or the likes of it. So that the kid doesn’t fall behind with the rest of the class.

I do that of course.
And every child obliges as well.
But: we laugh less. Learning turns into work. And some magic disappears.

At those moments I realise again the luxury of learning in my coaching sessions.
Where there is laughter.
With coachees that figure out for themselves what they need to learn. Fast.

And where magic is still the norm.
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2014/08/01 by Jac Rongen Leave a Comment

Coaching with archery on Dutch TV

‘Can we take some shots during one of your sessions?’

I have Enterprising Netherlands on the phone, a Dutch television programme on businesses. Coaching with archery would fit in nicely, they think.

After the first euforia (Wow, nice publicity!) the immediate downer: as a coach I am used to working behind the scenes. Not in the limelight, and surely not with an audience.

That is for a good reason: during a coaching session like this, people are often at their most vulnerable, and at the same time they can reveal more of themselves than they are aware of.

‘Oh, but that’s no issue,’ hollers the voice of the tv-person through the phone. ‘Let’s just have the presenter do a session with you. I bet she will like it.’

I immediately point out that one can disclose quite a lot when shooting with a bow. Not to mention that a camera is meticulously registering each micro-movement for the whole nation to see.

The Yes, but‘s are presented with increasing vigour and in a persuasive tone of voice.
It’s enough to make a light-shunning agoraphobic walk onto a stage with pleasure.

And indeed. The production day itself is a piece of cake, from the start. Not only am I free from nerves, it’s just plain fun. Also for the presenter.

Then the cameraman suddenly exclaims to her, ‘Oh wow, I’m getting to know you much better now, Chan. I see things I never knew about you.’
An innocent, well-timed joke, to be fair. But it does touch something. And I see a trace of wariness that I hardly ever see during a coaching session.

The editing takes longer than planned. ‘Yes, we wanted to treat these images with care. Didn’t you ask for that?’

And, in all fairness: it did turn out well, I think. It offers a small peek behind our scenes.

Indeed, our scenes, for I had forgotten about that during the shooting: I am in it as well.
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2012/07/10 by Jac Rongen

How to catch a dolphin by train

Headache riddle for a manager: ‘How can you organise large groups of people so they keep in close contact without stepping on each other’s toes?’
Knee-jerk answer: write manuals. Many many manuals. With procedures.

Sure: if your bank goes bankrupt, you want to know who burnt your money. And everyone wants solid procedures to prevent these things.

But, procedures muffle personal communication. The good news is: a smart employees will develop the wildest work arounds. Bend a rule or two. Just to do his work as he thinks it should be done. Or to keep things fun.

The other day I took the train with our youngest. As soon as the conductor laid his eyes on her, he seemed to remember something, and started smiling. Out of a hidden pocket, he magically produced a kid’s paper puncher. The tension rose slightly. I could hear a drum roll. Then a dolphin jumped from the ticket punch. It kept my 5-year old grinning for the rest of the train ride.

Still, the little ticket keeps popping up in our house. My daughter is a driven train lobbyist for life.
Thanks a red little plastic puncher.
And a professional out of his box.
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2011/09/22 by Jac Rongen

Mass Psychology for Dummies

Highlights from mass psychology brought together in a funny 3-minute video. About the overrating of leadership, and the importance of first followers.
(with thanks to Krijn Korver)
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2011/09/06 by Jac Rongen

“Wish you were here”

“Why write holiday postcards,”was the recurring question from people around me this summer, when they observed the many hours that I spend writing cards, also the addresses. “You can print those nowadays, you know.”

To me, however, this offers a yearly moment of reflection. Noticing that I haven’t seen someone for a(nother) year, I become acutely aware if not having seen the person makes me sorry or not. Ever so often I stop writing, but usually the mailing list gets longer every year, with good memories attached.
In some cases it also provides a good exercise. Especially if the interaction wasn’t all that smoothly in the past year, I force myself to keep searching until I find something that I can truthfully thank the other for. And I write that down.

If you read this, and you unexpectedly didn’t get a card, I probably lost your address, or Outlook did something funny. Please drop me a mail at jac@rongen.com with your snail-mail address , and I will be thinking of you next year as I write an old fashioned postcard.

The Swedish Mail has developed a new approach to sending cards, and uses Facebook and other applications in an ingenious way to automatically produce postcards that are supposed to convey a feeling of intimacy.

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2011/07/14 by Jac Rongen

Preverbal colouring

When involved in some serious learning, you can end up in an area where your language falls short in describing what is happening. Your new experiences are not connected with known words, yet. As soon as the first surge of enthousiasm is gone, the very source of that enthousiasm seems to have been washed away, simply because of a lack of connection with your existing world of reference.

To facilitate retention of the new, I sometimes invite participants to express themselves about the new experiences in ways that they are not very familiar with. It helps to form connections between their old knowledge and what is newly learned. One way to do this, is by making a colourful painting, while keeping a certain theme in mind. The small pieces of art that are the result of this, often carry a lot of meaning for their maker. Once I ran into a former participant two years after a programme, and she opened the conversation showing her painted object: “Look, I always have this with me in my car. It helps.”

Further reading: a short and powerful recount of this type of experience by a participant, from the PhD study of Roger Greenaway.

Kleur
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2011/07/01 by Jac Rongen

Inspirational leadership

Now that the producer of the Blackberry is in stormy weather, it comes as no surprise that critical noises are rising, as in this open letter. The writer asks for positive action, whilst referring to a TED speech by Simon Sinek on inspiring leadership. At 17.00 minutes there is the quote ‘Martin Luther King gave the “I have a dream” speech, not the “I have a plan” speech.’

2011/04/29 by sihw

Work/life balance

As a facilitator I often introduce myself by answerring questions from the participants. The advantage is that they get an answer to any question they want to ask, and it prevents me from talking about things people don’t want to hear. It also gives an idea of the frames of mind in the room.

Recently a participant asked me about my work/life balance. In honest I started to answer that I do work a lot, and that I really love my work. It dawned upon me that it was a peculiar phrase, since it carries the assumption that there is a difference between my life and my work. I made a small remark on it without giving it any further attention.

Somewhere on day three, halfway through the programme, we looked back to see where people had encountered issues to think about, or cues for change. ‘The remark on the seeming divide between life and work,’ it came without a trace of hesitation from that participant. A bit surprised I realised that
– one can design a good programme, but you cannot plan where or when a participant has an experience or an insight;
– as facilitator you may have to offer most when you think least about it, when there is no divide between work and life.

Read more: Academic article from ’97 against the use of the phrase work/life balance.

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